I have been asked the same dreadful question many times, including someone whom I deem rather important in my life. I am in complete shock that she, along with others, would dare ask me this question after knowing not only my story, but the bond I have with my mother. The question that, thanks to society and the warped mentality surrounding child abuse, people feel is okay to ask: “Are you angry at your mother?” This seems like a harmless question, however, this can also be a catalyst or trigger for misdirected anger.
Listen to Your Unconscious Mind
I recently had a good friend of mine recommend the book, Blink, by Malcolm Gladwell. I haven’t even finished it, yet I HAVE to post my insights on the book from the point of view of a survivor of narcissistic abuse. What parts of our minds truly knew what was happening to us while we were in these toxic relationships? Did my mind ever unconsciously sense that this relationship was going to be a bad one the first time we met our abusers? Can our unconscious sense the evil within the sweet, loving facade of narcissists even when our conscious mind could not? If so, at what point did our conscious mind finally pick up on what our unconscious mind could always see?
After Telling Your Loved Ones: Interviewing My Parents
Stealing My Innocence: Robyn-Lynn’s Story
For Robyn-Lynn’s discretion, names of family members and minor details have been changed.
Two weeks ago, I sat frozen in place after an all too familiar song found its way on my car radio. It had been a while since I last heard the song, at least a couple of years, but I do remember that there was a time in my life when this particular song was my favorite. A time I sometimes try to forget. I have never denied myself the memory of what happened to me when I was a child and I had always assumed that because I forced myself to remember that I would most likely be one of the few who would not have a trigger but somehow, I was wrong.